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No one can tell a woman what is best for her and her baby ... waterbirth, homebirth, hospital birth, doctor, midwife, Unassisted Childbirth (UC) or cesarean surgery ... it is for her and her baby to know. The best we can do is support her to access, trust, and know her own inner wisdom and communicate with the Being within her - the One whose birth it is through her womb and the man. - Janel Mirendah, Attachment/Birth trauma therapist, Filmmaker of The Other Side of the Glass.

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Monday, July 1, 2013

Digital Release of the Film - Get your copy!


The Other Side of the Glass: A birth film for and about men

Father's Day 2013 digital release 

 buy it here at The Other Side of the Glass.com 

How to feel powerful and connected again in your relationship -- feelings that may have taken a hit when your baby was born.

"This is so needed. I watch over and over and over as fathers get swallowed in the fear of hospital birth practice. I am torn apart every time I see a father stand back and chew his knuckles while his wife is essentially assaulted or his baby is left to lie there screaming."
--Carrie Hankins, doula

Fathers are traumatized by witnessing what happened to - and not being able to protect - their birthing partner and baby. Our culture does not acknowledge men as being impacted by the disempowering experience of modern birth. Fathers leave the hospital - in shock - with a wounded wife and baby, and so:

- FATHERS struggle to know how to support their partner (and crying baby) processing her pain and disappointment from the baby's birth.

- FATHERS have no place to share their story of their pain and loss and joy, and their guilt and shame at not "being the protector."

- FATHERS go back to work, they help at home and with baby at night, and they are exhausted.

- FATHERS feel hurt by the loss of time and attention from partner while watching the mom's intimacy with the baby.

- FATHERS sadly silently struggle with the conflicting, scary feelings towards their baby and fatherhood.

- FATHERS grieve and are angry, and then feel guilty about their behavior around their need for and the loss of sexual intimacy.

The Other Side of the Glass: A birth film for and about men, available now at www.theothersideoftheglass.com.

Through voices of men around the country, Janel Mirendah, attachment therapist and "baby whisperer," has created a love story of a film that powerfully and gently opens our hearts and eyes to see how men experience the truly most profound moment in their lives - becoming a father. A virtually unknown need of men at birth emerges as men share their pain and loss: The moment a man sees his baby emerge from his partner should be his moment of awe, and this human need is totally ignored and violated in modern birth. And, it deeply impacts his life as a man, father, and partner.

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In her private practice, Janel facilitates the Father First (c) to safely and gently share his story of becoming father, in order for him to reclaim his rightful place and role in his family. When the father is heard and acknowledged, and when he is ready, Janel supports the father as she brings the mama-baby and dad together - to experience their Moment of Awe that they missed. (Chapter 2 of the film).

This process, grounded in recent scientific understanding of the nervous system and imprinting, follows the needs of their baby. Having their family Moment of Awe brings the family into a new experience of harmony and creates the foundation to create a new peaceful dynamic in their family.

The Other Side of the Glass: A birth film for and about men
Digital release available at this special price now - 

www.theothersideoftheglass.com.Once this limited release is over, Part 1 (Chapters 1-6) and upcoming Part 2 of the film will be available through a membership portal, where fathers (and others, such as grandmothers and doulas who also witnessed violence at birth) can safely and confidentially have access to work with Janel, and begin to process their experience, and lead in healing his family.

"To call it a film or even a documentary does not really represent the scope of your offering. It is more a manifesto on the origins of, and influences on, parenting and family life from the very beginning.

In a way it is a stand alone early parenting course. It is the most inclusive and balanced mother/father/baby film I have seen. This is rare because few actually get the true significance and importance of father's influence on the baby's gestation, birth and breastfeeding experience, as well as on the mother." 

- Patrick Houser, Fathers-to-be (UK)

1 comment:

Shayna said...

Love what you are doing with this film! I link to your blog from mine and would love for you to check it out. I feel it's so important to make birth empowering for fathers as well as mothers! http://www.womanofservice.com/

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Buy It!

Part One: The Other Side of the Glass: a Birth Film for and About Men officially released in digital download format on June 2, 2013. Go to www.TheOtherSideoftheGlass.com to purchase a digital download.

Men have been marginalized in birth for a long time. The old joke is that a man was sent off to boil water to keep him busy. I believe they were making the environment safe. Birth moved to hospitals and for forty years women were separated from their partners who was left to wait in smoke filled waiting room. Finally, he would see his baby from "the other side of the glass." Now a man can go in the birthing room and even get to hold his partner's hand during surgery. But they are still marginalized and powerless, according to the fathers I interviewed around the country.

Historically, birth has been defined by the medical establishment. The midwifery and natural birth movement now advocate for need "to educate and prepare men to protect their wife and baby" in medical environment. Seems logical ... if we process with the same illogic that got us here.

Through the voices of men - and doctors and midwives - men share heart-touching stories about how this is not workin' out. A man is also very likely to be disempowered and prevented from connecting with their newborn baby in the first minutes of life.

Now is the time for men to take back birth.

The film is about restoring our families, society, and world through birthing wanted, loved, protected, and nurtured males (and females, of course). It's about empowering males to support the females to birth humanity safely, lovingly, and consciously.

Donors, check your emails or email me at theothersideoftheglassfilm@gmail.com for info to download. Release on DVD is not planned at this date.

FREE online! watch Chapters 1, 2, 3, and 10 at www.vimeo.com/75767434

"Doctor's Voices" - Stuart Fischbein, MD - Part 1

Doctor's Voices - Michael Odent, MD

Human Rights Violations

Resources - Healing Birth Trauma

"The Other Side of the Glass" has the potential to open up feelings that have been denied and ignored for a very long time. How to heal the trauma of birth at any age will be addressed in the film. Meanwhile, these are pioneers in the field.

Raymond Castellino and Mary Jackson - www.BEBA.org

David Chamberlain, Ph.D. - www.BEPE.info

Judith Cohen - www.judithleecohen.com

Myrna Martin - www.MyrnaMartin.net

Karen Melton - www.HealYourEarlyImprints.com

Wendy McCord, Ph.D. - www.WendyMcCord.com

Wendy McCarty, Ph.D. - www.WondrousBeginnings.com

And, many, many more all over the world at www.BirthPsychology.com
In both relationships and life trust begets trust.
Generosity begets generosity.
Love begets love.
Be the spark, especially when it's dark.

--Note from the Universe, www.tut.com

"Everybody today seems to be in such a terrible rush, anxious for greater developments and greater riches and so on, so children have very little time with their parents. Parents have very little time for each other, and in the home begins the disruption of the peace of the world." - Mother Theresa